I am feeling like I won't survive.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am 27 y/o and I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. We have decided that we are made for each other and want the whole nine yards. A year ago I wasn't so sure and cheated on him. I couldn't decide if I wanted to stay or go, I had many insecurities, etc. I understand it broke him down and hurt him. This past year we've been focused on healing and getting better and I make sure that I limit my dealings with guys to necessary. Now he's just so jealous of any interaction with the opposite sex, he always in my phone bill, emails or phone,it often explodes to anger and his excuse is you cheated and you made me like this. But he had these traits somewhat before the incident. We have a mutual friend whom I was intimate with for 3 yrs prior to him, which he knew about. Once we got together he changed, I was to have absolutely nothing to do with him. The guy texted me one day and he flipped. Back to the main point we go thru these cycles of him lashing out in jealous fits of paranoia. I take itlike a child because he makes me feel so bad and I did cheat. Again anytime a guy approaches me in any setting he flips, and blames me for how he reacts because "I ought to to know better and expect him to react irrational in certain cases" no matter how innocent they seem to me because of my history. And the fact that I don't means to him I either don't know him or don't care how it affects him. I am trying to hang on and want it to work but I feel so drained and defeated.
You are not made for each other.
He is not good enough for you. He is driving you crazy and miserable with his overdramatic jealousy. You have already paid off your cheating. He is dragging it out now beyond belief.
Tell him straight that you have had it with his jealousy and tired of paying for a mistake in the past. Let him know he has to change his ways if he wants to keep you... and mean it.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life under a microscope? I doubt it.
Do yourself a favor and get this resolved to your satisfaction as soon as possible. He isn't worth the pain and suffering that you are enduring.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com