What do i do when things are so confusing?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Ok so. My ex and i were very very happy together but we were fighting towards the end of our break up, and we have been separated for a few months. He has come back at least 5 times, though, but we have never gotten back together because he always gets scared about what happened before, and then he leaves and doesn't talk to me for a while. Its getting really hard to keep going along with this because he tells me how much he misses me and everything, and then leaves without a warning, so i don't know what to do. Also, he always stares at me with the look he used to have for me and drops hints, but it is really confusing when he acts like he doesn't care after. I am always very happy when we talk, but it gets harder and harder every time he leaves and knowing he will probably leave. I just want to get back together, and i've heard about playing hard to get, but i'm not sure. HELP!
If you want him, figure out what makes him happy (and you happy too.)
Concentrate on these things and do them. Meanwhile figure out what makes him unhappy and avoid those things.
It will take a lot of thinking to figure these things out so set aside some time each day to analyze your relationship.
Don't forget communicating with him gently, being compassionate and affectionate.
Sometimes the smallest change can turn things around.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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