I want him back but i don't know whether i should...
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Well honestly i feel am in great trouble.It happened three years ago that a guy came into my life as my friend.Soon we became best friends and he even proposed me.Since i found him very nice i decided to accept his proposal and become his girlfriend though i was never in love with him.I thought i would be able to make myself love him.
But then i met somone else some days later with whom i really fell in love.The problem was that my boyfriend was obsessed with me,he could not bear my saying that i did not love him anymore.He even stooped to the level of saying that he was going to commit suicide for me. I don't know to what extent he was telling the truth but in that situation i found nothing else to do than to tell him that i love him and am with him.At the same time i did not want to lose theone i love. So i had both in my life. Finally,after two months the one i love came to know the truth and we got separated. Now am still with the guy who was obsessed with me.I can't get rid of him because of his threats to die because of me,but am afraid am still in love with my first love. I guess he does not love me now but i really regret what i did and want to live with him but i really don't know how. Please try to help me. What must i do? I can't even forget him. Each time i see him i fall in love with him all over again. He is my happiness. Please help me..
Your boyfriend is emotionally blackmailing you by threatening to kill himself.
When it comes to suicide, I am only allowed to refer you to a professional counselor. I am not qualified to deal with problems of this seriousness.
If you can't afford a counselor, there is probably some agency in your area that will help you. Or call a national hotline. Here are a few:
or try this webpage which looks very useful:
Good luck and do something now! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com