We're taking a break?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hello! I am 16 and my boyfriend is 18. We've been dating for almost 4 months now. I really love him and until today he would always tell me that he loved me too. Recently I was really worried that I might be pregnant because my period was a few days late, so I talked to my parents and my boyfriend about it. It turns out that I'm not (thank goodness!), and the chances of me actually being pregnant were slim to none (we didn't even have intercourse, but some ejaculate ended up near me one night when we were fooling around), but I thought it was the right thing to tell my parents and talk to my boyfriend about it. When I talked to my boyfriend and told him that I might be pregnant, he got really freaked out and said that he couldn't talk about it. He's always been kind of skittish, so I let him go and just assumed he'd talk to me about it later when he'd calmed down, but then he sent me a text saying, "I don't want to call this breaking up, but I want to take a break from dating you for a while. This is too much for me." We decided to take a two week break for him to clear his head-but he says he's unsure as to whether he loves me or not anymore because he feels like he's not strong enough and he's upset with himself for not wanting to stay by me through our pregnancy scare. I know he's very stressed out with college applications and stuff, but I just didnt expect this from him. He always told me that he loves me more than anything in the world, and I feel the same about him. But I just don't know what to do. Should we get back together after this break (I want to)?
You were very knowledgable about the dangers of ejaculate getting near you. And you were wise to tell your parents and boyfriend that you might be pregnant.
My advice about your boyfriend is this (based on the fact that you want to get back with him). First tell him he must wear protection whenever ejaculate might get near you. Second, have a long discussion with him about what will happen if you actually get pregnant. He should agree to stick by your decision if you want to keep or abort the child or put it up for adoption. The choice will be yours and he has to go along with it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com