Follow Up Question
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
In mid January of this year (2008), I met my ex online. We talked strictly on IM for about 3 months and then he began calling me and we talked for hours every night on the phone. We had so much in common and he made me feel so special with the way he talked to me. At the time he lived in Iowa and a few months after we had met, he moved up to Wisconsin to be with me, even though he was still and hour and a half away. I fell in love with him so fast and wanted to see him so badly. About 5 months after we met online, he finally came to see me in person. We got along so well. He treated me wonderfully and constantly told me how much he loved me and how lucky he was and how beautiful I was, he made me so happy. He saw me a few times over this past summer and we made some great and wonderful memories together. I was so in love with him. We had sex a few times after about 7 months, only because I trusted him so much. He always told me he'd never leave me and he'd be with me through the good and the bad, for better or for worse. On September 16 he told me it was over. It's been about 2 and a half weeks and I haven't heard anything from him. I still love him and I want him back in my life so bad, but I don't know what to do. He hasn't contacted me once yet and since he's an hour and a half away, I can't see him regularly or anything like that. I know he still loves me. We had a beautiful relationship and we had so many things planned. I don't want to let him go but I don't know what I should do.
A few days ago I submitted this question and got an answer which I'm very thankful for, but now I need the next step. The answer provided to my question was that I should contact him, ask him why he broke it off and tell him I love him and want him back and then leave the rest up to him. I sent him a message since he wouldn't answer my calls and he simply said it was because he "lost feelings" for me. I asked him if he still feels that way and if he has given any real thought to it since then and I'm now waiting for his reply. I don't know how to get him to come back now. The only reason he lost feelings is because for 2 weeks before he broke it off, we had only gotten to talk about 30 minutes total because there was so much going on. I felt like we had drifted a little as a result but I still loved him just the same. I know deep down he still loves me just as much as before, but I don't know what to do to bring that out in him again. Please help me
Since you know that he still loves you, don't give up trying to contact him. Keep trying to call him and hopefully you can convince him to be friends again.
Once you are friends, it will be easier to increase that to stronger feelings.
It has been almost a month since he broke up with you. I hope your have been able to make some progress with him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com