So many mixed signals, how does my ex really feal?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I was dating my ex for a year and seven months and we were deeply in love. We moved in together, got a dog together and both wanted to get married in a few years. My ex then started to make new friends at work which I didn't mind, but then one night didn't come home till 1am, long story short I found out she was having drinks with another guy from work. I asked her what was going on and she said that she wasn't happy in our relationship anymore and felt traped. She told me that we have great times together and that we are best friends but that she did'nt want a best friend as a boyfriend. She claimed also that she wanted to live on her own to prove she could be independent and didn't want to be in a relationship. I come to find out that within 3 days after the break up she's officialy going out with this new guy from work. I confronted her about it and she didn't want to discuss it. In the end she told me that she knows she doesnt't want to be with me right now but does not know about the future. At our last encounter when she was moving her stuff out she complimented me and told me I looked very nice, gave me a hug and told me to keep in touch. I'm so confused, is she trying to play me by stringing me along to think there may be a future for us while she now goes out with this rebound guy just in case things don't work out for her in her new relationship? I'm sitting her asking myself how she could abandon me and the dog she loved so much for a less successful, less attractive guy that she just met 2 weeks ago when we had so much history and future plans together.
Sad to say, she got tired of you and then found this new guy who caught her eye. So she broke up with you and he was standing by.
She is saying nice things to you to lessen the hurt for the both of you and so she doesn't feel so guilty.
Wait another month or so to see what develops and then, if nothing changes, write her off as a lost cause.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com