My Fault or his
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a few months. it was the best relationship i had ever been in. i had never been happier. Everything was okay until we started asking questions about what we've done in the past. I was scared to tell him the whole truth about my past because i was afraid he'd think lowly of me so i left out most of my "past". He later started getting onto my instant messager and talking to my ex's and finding out a lot of stuff...some of which wasn't true. He thinks that i still lie to him because of the fact i hid that. I think he's becoming controling, telling me who i can and can't talk to. He says he loves me, which he does. He's basing our relationship off things that've happened in my past. he won't let it go. and im not the same person. what do i do? what can he do?
Tell him you don't want to talk about your past because it just leads to bad feelings between you. Also emphasize that all he hears is not true and he should stop investigating you with ex's.
Be very firm about this. He has no right to dig into your past. If he continues to follow this path then you should consider dumping him. Why should you be made to feel bad about the past?
This isn't your fault. Even if you think you made questionable choices, so has he so why should he be so controlling? Don't let him get away with this.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com