we broke up and still fight
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Me and my bf broke up like 3 months ago because we were fighting all the time...he was living with me but moved out...we still talk everyday and see each other alot but he has eliminated me from all his friends and family and says that we cant be back together bf & gf until we stop fighting...he says he loves me and wants to marry me and have kids with me...which all this confuses me because he starts to act like a jerk and sometimes dosnt want to see me or would rather be alone or with friends...its because we fight all the time but i have such hurt feelings because he acts so mean sometimes and because he eliminates me from everything...i want to know how to get over that andstop fighting with him about all this stuiped stuff i want to get along with him but i am so hurt and he is to..he use to treat me like a queen he would want to be with me all the time...would make every effort to see me and now its so different, his indiffence with me really hurts my feelings and i want to fix this and stop fighting
Your problem is a common one but not easy to solve.
The basic problem is a lack of respect for each other. It always takes two to argue so both of you need to work hard at getting along.
Here is a website with lots of advice on arguing and how to stop:
Good luck! George
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com