stop running from yourself
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Ok, there is a girl(my friend) i have known since we were in class 6th. Now from the last one year i know whats going on in her life. She had a boyfriend to whom she loved a lot. But due to some differences in thoughts that boy started making gap between them and now for the last 3 months they haven't talked to each other. The boy have made another girlfriend. But this girl who is my friend, can't stop talking about him to me. She just loves him a lot. But the boy have started leaving his own life.
So now the situation is that this girl(my friend) is trying to stop thinking about that guy. and she keeps telling me her state that she is missing him and all that.
Now the condition is that, we have been the best friends for the last one year and i love her very much. its like i cant see her crying. It just makes me feel bad and makes me willing to do something for her. But she now does not want to be engaged in any type of relationship. Since she is scared that the next one who would come in her life will do the same thing to her and she will be broken again. I do respect her for this and try to control my feelings for her because i don't want her losing her friend (me) whom she shares every bit of her life.
She knows the thing that i love her a lot but doesn't want to be in any type of relationship anymore.
But seeing her week for that guy makes me weak too. Can't see her so depressed. i know i m the best guy who could keep her happy to the end of this world. Would do anything for her happiness. But she keeps telling me that now wherever her parents will arrange her marriage, she will accept this. But we don't know about that guy who will come in her life. But i m sure he can't be good then me. I have sacrificed my happiness for this girl and will do forever.
But now i am taking care of the girl. and trying to control my emotions. i am getting weak. i think all day about the girl. But cant show her my weakness because then she would not remain happy seeing me depressed. so cant let out my emotions. Dont know what to do now. But she needs someone in her life who could take care of her. and i m there for her always.
It's only been three months since the break with her boyfriend. Keep telling her that you care for her and will take care of her. As time goes by, she will draw closer to you.
There is plenty of time for improvements in your relationship. Keep calm and make her feel relaxed. Time is on your side.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com