Overcoming the green monster
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I'm not too sure where to begin. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 5 months. I have severe insecurity issues and jealousy issues, but it wasn't all that way.
Back in September of last year, we moved into our apartment. A week later we found out I was pregnant. (This is where all the issues began). In November, I found sexually text messages between him and a co-worker, and when I confronted him about it, he said that it was all a plan between the two so the next time I accused him of cheating, he'd think I really did. Then in February I found out he was planning on cheating on me with my best friend at the time, and when I confronted him about that, he claimed that it was because she told him I was cheating and it was sort of a revenge thing. The only recent thing is that he made a couple of new friends at the club, who are females. I don't think I should be threatened BUT I can't help but feel that way. I've been wanting to look at his myspace to see messages between them but he changed his password because he claimed I was snooping. And yes, I will admit I have snooped a LOT. I also find myself getting very angry at him when he wants to go out with his friends because I feel he should help with the baby. I don't know how to fix all this and I really want to. I'm tired of him thinking I'm a bitch and not wanting to have sex with me or spend time with me. Please help :(
I am sorry you are in this situation.
Your troubles are so varied and deep that my advise is to go to a professional marriage counselor. He seems to be very immature. He should help you out with your child.
If you don't get this resolved soon, you will be miserabel for a long time.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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