Am i out of line to feel hurt? pt2
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Oh dont worry, im not gonna go break up with the girl i love to go back to somebody who put me through a lot of confusion pain and misery. NO WAY! Im not that stupid.I have a great thing going now.A great person i care for that cares about me.Im not gonna turn away from that to somebody who when she actually liked me didnt tell me either.Id have to be nuts.
When she vanished from highschool i did visit her workplace all the time, but they couldnt reach her,later i found out shed never gone in and she had quit and was in therapy dealing with depression. The school wouldnt give me the information because its private and she had an unlisted phone # which her ex bf never let me know. Her bf didnt let her have many friends and the few she had were from other highschools and i had no way to contact them.As it turned out she lived in a fellowship far from the city.So thats why we never even bumped into eachother until too late 4 months ago.
Whats funny is that up until i finished writing to this site, i guess it vented my frustations and cleared my head, was that i still thought even after this, if i was single again and so was she, that id once again try to strike iron when its hot. But now, im not so sure. I kinda had a bit of revelation and i dont hold her in such high regard anymore. And if we are both ever single, im not gonna go running off to go get her,cuz it didnt work the last couple of times, she always had somebody else in mind, and the last time we both knew we had liked eachother at one point and she decided to go with somebody else who physically assaulted her...yaaaa...that "perfect girl" image is kinda dissolved now.More like "girl who makes bad decisions and has poor self worth and self esteem."
Only thing is that im hoping to move out in the summer and V is going to have a spot available for dirt cheap rent considering we might have a whole house! But that means living with her...and my gf knows of my past with her...but HALF RENT for a WHOLE HOUSE!!! Where you are best friends with the landlord is a pretty nice scenario...but my gf might be worried about me living with the last girl i liked...maybe ill sit her down and tell her the whole story up till this point...think thats a good idea?
You are going to have to figure out for yourself if it is a good idea to move in with V and tell your GF about your history.
Think real hard about your feelings for V and your GF. This could go bad fast. You might end up having feelings for both of them, or both of them could decide they have no feelings for you.
In answer to your question, my opinion is that it is always best to be completely honest with your GF. Nothing but trouble comes otherwise and trust can be lost.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com