I cheated twice
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I am an 18 year old male, fresh into univesity, and in need of some serious help. I have been with my girlfriend, wo is a very mature 16, for just over a year now, and now she is at home in ontario, and im here at university in quebec. This past march, i went to a friends party by myself, and ended up getting drunk and kissing a girl at the party. I immediately confessed, that night, to my girl and me and my girlfriend eventually worked things out over the course of a few weeks. I promised i would never cheat again. and she trusted me. and honestly, i trusted myself. So now i am here in quebec, and 2 days ago, 4 days after i left for university, i ended up making almost exaclty the same mistake while drunk and at a bar. again, i have told my girlfriend, and she wants to try to work this out just as much as i do, but she has absolutely no trust in me anymore, and i cant seem to win it back. I actually do love my girlfriend with all my heart, she has been the love of my life, and i can honestly say that this time i have learned my lesson. All i want is her back, and in my arms. last time i could be there to hold her, but this time i am not. what can i do to gain her trust back?? how can i show her that this wont happen again? that i really do love her? can it be done with words? or by talking to her? we are both extremely hurt, and need answers fast.
thank you for your help,
Offer to punish yourself for your behavior. Tell her you will not communicate with her for two months and see if you can control yourself. If you do control yourself then maybe she will begin to trust you again and you can trust yourself.
If you fail the test, then you are not mature enough to have a relationship with her and you should stop seeing her.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com