i know too much to know what is next
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
ok so im am 18 he is 28
we have been together for 3 years and were engaged
but i recently found an old mobile sim card that had old messages from 18 months ago to my (at the time fiance) saying that the sender wanted to "hook up" i confronted him that day and he confessed that he had indeed cheated on me... so i told him that i could not stay and i left but the next day i was online and he started talking to me and appoligised and said it only happened once and asked me to go to dinner to discuss what was going to happen.
i went to dinner and in the next few days we have met for "discussions" and i am at a point now that i have al the information on what happened (i cant sleep because i asked all the gory details of how when what position all the stuff i shouldnt know so i constantly think of what now ) im stuck he is my first and only love ever and i was pure before i met him and i feel dirty and betrayed i am ready to forgive him and move on i just dont know how...please help me as to where i should go from here...
You are half way there. You seem to have forgiven him in principle. Now you have to deal with the bad feelings that you have from knowing the details. Try to put those details out of your mind and in time they will go away.
Moving on means putting thoughts of him out of your mind. You should date new guys. Get involved in activities and friends. Perhaps an exercise class would help you get relief from the relaxation and distraction they afford.
Chalk this up to a learning experience and remember that not all guys are like him and you will find a good one soon.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com