Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months i am 39 and he is 59 i love him more than words can say when we got together he said he goes on holiday once a year with a female friend she is just a travelling companion and nothing goes on and ever has done. i ignored it and didn't thinks at the beginning i would feel this way because of the age difference.
I have split from him twice for a couple of days over this issue and now he is starting to raise the subject again, my friend who works for him says he had te 3 weeks booked of in the diary and he says he hasn't booked anything yet. I can't cope with the thought of him going on holiday with this woman for 3 weeks she is in her early 60's, it makes me sick to the bone that he only gets 3 weeks holiday and won't go away with me and insists on going with this other woman.
Since we have been together i have purchased the food every day and when we have been out for dinner i have alway paid as i have a lot better paid job than he has and earn more than twice as much.
I don't know what to do my heart is breaking over this issue and he just says that i am being selfish and won't budge, i said he should go so i don't look selfish but he says he is not booking to go till i accept the situation, which will never happen.
He is the steward of our social club and due to me working nights and him working unsociable hours we spend only about 3 to 4 hours a day together as it is. He said she had been texting him and calling and he had been ignoring her calls, but his best friend said she had phoned him and had been getting upset on the phone to his wife, his best friend knows we arfe an item.
What should i do is he cheating on me with he and is he sleeping with her on holiday?
You are right to feel sick over what he is doing. He is completely disregarding your feelings. The thing for you to do is to put your foot down and not go along with his idea. He did say he would not go on the trip without your approval.
I also think he is probably sleeping with this woman. Can't be sure, but I think most people would agree.
If you are looking for a compromise, ask him to take you on a two week vacation and then take her on a one week vacation. This is not what you want but would at least be a step in the right direction.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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