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Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I'm 18 and I live in MA. I am starting college this September. She is 17 and lives in Virginia, and is starting her senior year. We have been talking for a few months, and we get a long GREAT. I mean, both of us are always smiling, we completely click on all levels, romantic, humor, personality etc. We are great when together. I really feel like we have something special. Currently, im aware the drive there is only about 8-10 hours, but I do not own my own car. Me and my mother are currently sharing, but she is looking to buy one soon as I am starting College and she works, so we both need a car.
Our problem is that I want to be able to see her ASAP. With her finishing her HS year, and me just starting college, I am finding it difficult to work it into our schedule. The best I have came up with was waiting until Spring Break and going to visit. I do not know if she can wait that long though. She is struggling with the long distance, and although completely dedicated to me, needs someone to touch and hug. I completely understand that and back her up 100%.
I don't know what I can do to try and convince her that at least setting a goal and seeing if we can make it work is worth that long wait. I don't want to marry the girl, or anything THAT serious we're both still very young - but I have never ever met anyone in my life that I got along with so well. There is NEVER a dull moment between us.
Although things are good, they can be amazing if we were together. I do not think she can last as long as Spring Break for something neither of us know is 100% legit you know? I feel as if she is my other half though - and I REALLY want to make it work so we can at the very least spend time with eachother in person. I want to see us together.
As I explained earlier, there is a very good chance I will have my own car soon, and if I do get it I want to take the best and earliest chance possible to go down there to see her.
I would love some ideas, advice, and any other helpful information you can provide that will help us get through this together.
Long distance romances are very difficult to sustain. Frequent contacts can be the best you can do in some cases.
As far as physically being with her, how about taking Amtrak down to Virginia and then a bus to her hometown? Or maybe she could pick you up at the station.
Or you could meet somewhere in between and find a hotel.
School breaks also take place during the Christmas season. Some school have almost a month off. When spring break comes you could plan a trip together.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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