She needed time
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
O.k. So I have been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now. She is the greatest thing that has ever happend to me and I love her so much. A few weeks ago out of the blue she said she needed time to see if this is what she wanted and if she was serious about this realtionship. We talked everyday for a week and then she said she still loved me and this is what she wanted. It has been about three weeks since then and there has been no problems, we have never had any at all, everytime we fight it is about something dumb. So we are all good and then yesterday she tells me she wants to think about whats happening and that she is not into the relationship as much as I am and we should break up. Well we still hung out the entire day and then that night she told me that everything she said earlier didn't matter and she loved me. But it seems different, I just don't know what to do She is the love of my life and I care about her more than anything and she knows this, we have always been in love but she seems to have one bad day and take it to the maximum. What can I do to see if she really loves me still and how can I show my love for her.
You can do both by talking gently and deeply with her and specifically ask her those questions. This will start you getting at the truth. It isn't easy to tell if she really loves you if she isn't showing it. Probably she is having doubts. Showing your love for her is also easy but not -- at the same time.
You are worried and that makes you act like someone scared, not someone in love. Again, discuss this with her and make it really clear that you are truly in love with her. Your relationship is up and down and sharing of feelings can help smooth it out.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com