How to help him to get over his nervousness
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have known this guy for three years but we never hang out on a regular basis, mostly just during friend's get together. A few weeks ago when we were chatting online he asked me to go to a movie out of the blue, and then he went on to asked a lot of other friends (but only a couple showed up). It was fun though. When he drove the three of us home, he purposely dropped me off last, even though the two other friend live so much closer to him. So then we could have some time together.
He asked me to hang out with him and a few other friends a couple times after that. When we get a chance to be alone together we talked and laughed a lot.
I could tell that he likes me because even though in general he is very confident and articulate, sometimes when I call him/ran into him unexpectedly he would be stuttering. I think that's very cute but it has got to stop!
Also it seems like he is scared to be alone with me. Last week we were supposed to have lunch with another friend, but when that friend cancelled on us and I called to see if he still want to go with me, he stuttered really badly and said he already invited another friend to go (but that friend is super-far away so neither of us went in the end).
So how do I help him to get over his nervousness? I really like him and want to spend some time alone with him!!
I received this same question from two different addresses and one of them bounced, so I am replying to this one. Hope it gets to you.
Ask him if it is usual for him to be so nervous and suggest that a good way to overcome nervousness is to see each other more often. Maybe you should ask him out on a date for just the two of you... a dinner?
Perhaps he is shy about initiating physical contact with you. Either talk about this or start touching him so he gets the idea it's ok. Little things like that can help.
Good luck! George
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