Don't know what to do!!
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Ok. Well i've known my friend for 3 years now and we became very close over the years. I became very fond of him and started to develop strong feelings for him although I didn't tell him, I kept it a secret. Then a few weeks ago, he told me online that he likes me more than a friend and that he told his dad about me. I was ecstaticly happy! We weren't going out or anything,but we knew how each other felt. So i told my other friend "mary" about him and she was really glad for me. So a few days ago, "Mary" told me that he invited her online and was being very flirty and things. At first i didn't take notice of it, but then she told me he's coming on to her and wants her. She told him that she's not intrested because her friend likes him (which is me) and he wanted to know who this friend was, but i told "mary" not to tell him its me because i wanted to check something first. So on sunday late afternoon, i asked him if he still likes me and that he should be honest. and he told me still likes me. So i told "mary" that she could tell him its me. (he didn't know that me and "mary" were friends) so when she told him its me, he told her "no we're just friends" and i felt so humiliated, and i confronted him the next day. He feels really bad and he's always sad, about what he done though, and i really like him, i might even love him. Btw, i found out by his friend yesterday that he had a fling with some other girl at a party on saturday. I feel really confused, i know he just played with my feelings and that we weren't together so i can't blame him for flirting with other girls, but i really love him, i wouldn't be writing this if i didn't. please i need advice.
He needs to acknowledge what he has done and come clean with you. Too much information is being passed with other people. What's important is how you two feel about each other and being honest with each other.
Your loving feelings will be strengthened by sharing information, feelings, and affection. This also will develop trust which one of the most important things in a good relationship.
Talk to him more.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com