I don't know whats right for me.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I'm now 19 and have been dating the same 2 guys since I was about 12 years old. These 2 particular guys are best friends, but not anymore. I didn't mean for this to happen.
I moved out of my parents house a while ago and lived with one of them, and it ended up not working out.. but in the mean time we had the other guy move in with us because he didnt have a place to stay.
Things with the guy I was living with first were rough. He wasted his money on stupid things and didnt treat me with any respect. The other guy saw all this going on and convinced me I could have it so much better with him. So what did I do? I kicked the first guy out and continued living there with the other guy. Things were going great at first.. and we even moved out of that apartment and got one of our own and we got a puppy. Things were great.
Things slowly started to get horrible. He stole from me, lied to me, cheated on me, screamed at me, would leave for days and not come home, did nothing to help me around the house and lost his job. He owe's me over $1000 (not including the money he has stolen from me). We broke up about 1 week ago. He moved out all of his stuff.
I recently just hung out with the first guy I lived with in the beginning and am not sure if i want to "re-start" anything althought I might have gave some signals that I wanted to. I think I just might want to play the dating game for a bit even though i care about him.
So my question would be, what do i do? Look for someone completely fresh and get away from everything familiar? Be single and do my own thing for a while? Still hang out with the original boyfriend but nothing more then a friendship? Or get back together? I'm so confused.
Thank you for your help. You guys are great.
My advice is to hang out with the original boyfriend as just a friend. If things heat up with him then you can then get closer.
You shouldn't try to make any definite commitment right now because you are confused and were betrayed.
Date other fellows and treat yourself to new adventures.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com