She wants a break from all relationships, we are still friends
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Me and my ex began as best friends, and throughout our relationship and till now we still enjoy and love each other's company. Our relationship was one that I'm happy with, but of course we both had our own pros and cons with it.
Personally, I got too attached to her and became needy. I was insecure about the way she felt about me, and I would sometimes test her (for example, act sadder than I actually was to see if she will respond in the way that I want her to respond). I'm not particularly proud of the way I acted because I'm a normally independent person. It just so happens that I got too attached to her when she was entering a busy point in her life.
As for her, she was a bit too demanding in the relationship, and she didn't like that she was doing that. Therefore, she though that she was a bit "mean" and that I didn't deserve to be treated that way. She is also becoming very busy and looking at her future/career. Additionally, she has been in a relationship for literally 4 years (she went out with her ex for around 3.5 years, and then got with me shortly afterwards) so she feels like she wants some time off.
The thing is that we do care much about each other, and being good friends we still enjoy each other's company at this point. She would just like a break from a romantic relationship right now, and feels that it would be better for both of us at the time being because we weren't really happy with ourselves during the relationship. I understand that what I need to do is to be supportive and respectful of her, and that is what my mind is set on doing. However, my emotions are going crazy because I'm still in love with her.
I would just like some feedback to estimate what I can expect in the future. Much appreciated, thanks!!
The key to this problem is that she wants some time off.
First she has a 3 1/2 year relationship with a guy and then almost immediately takes up with you. No wonder she is ready to spread her wings and fly.
As you said, you should be supportive and respectful of her and remain her friend. You can work on having a better relationship while being her friend. One day you may discover that the romance has returned.
Your future will be fine, especially if you start looking for other girls to hang out with. That will make you feel good and make her look at you with more interest.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com