What's happened to our relationship?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
First off, I must tell you that my boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. Things were great during the school year, but then problems started to erupt when school was out and we weren't seeing each other as much. We started arguing about stupid stuff, but then everything would go back to normal and we would be completely in love. Then we kept arguing and process just repeated itself. The real problem started when I told him that I was going away to camp for 5 days, nothing major compared to the two weeks he was going to be away the following two weeks. He kept saying that I was going to cheat on him and forget all about him. He has never had a reason to think anything like that because I have been nothing but loyal. He kept going on that I could do so much better than him and I would just hook up with some guy at camp. While I was at camp he texted me non stop, saying how much he missed me and how miserable he was and how he felt like killing himself. He said he was having dreams about me kissing guys around the campfire then sneaking into a cabin. Then, I come back from camp and we talked about my camp and everything. But the next day he left for his band camp and would only be able to talk on the weekends for the next two weeks. I didn't say anything because I figured he would text me just like he did while I was at camp. But the thing is, he didn't. He barely texted me at all. Just a couple in the morning and a couple at night. He didn't even seem like he missed me. Then on the weekend we talked and he didn't even seem like he wanted to. More or less he just gave me two or three word answers. He didn't even want to talk that long. I don't get it. Please tell me what is going on and how I can save our relationship and get back to where it was before summer.
Unfortunately your boyfriend is insecure and immature.
You need to discuss this in a gentle, friendly, loving manner and let him know that he needs to trust you and also communicate with you.
The fact that you argue over little things could mean that you aren't having close conversations often enough. Practice this with him even if it is hard to get him to join in. Show him affection (besides physical) and draw him out on his two week camp.
A good relationship can be build by frequent sharing of love, conversation, and trust.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com