What to do now?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
So last time I asked a question, i wanted my ex back. Now, after thinking about why we broke up, which was because he was very physical with me when angry. I found that i do not want to be with him again. However after spending a week or more blaming myself and finally realizing it isn't me. I now see that he is happily starting to see another girl, not dating yet. But seeing eachother regularly. He jumps down my thoart whenever he feels like it about if i'm hanging out with another guy, and i always brush him off and tell him to grow up. I never ask him about his personal life, because one thats immature because we aren't together, and two i do not want him to know i care. Because that is really what he is looking for, me to crawl back. I'm not that kind of girl. Well I'm completely crushed, i feel like he never even cared about me. We have only been broken up for maybe 3 weeks, maybe. And already he is seeing another girl (we dated for just about a year). I am angry, confused, depressed, everything. Where do i begin, what do i do. I do not want to say anything, because i am afraid he'll just say something mean to me like "its over, like it doesn't matter what im doing" which it doesnt and thats why i haven't asked. How do i get past this, i am completely aware that he is the biggest jerk i've ever met, but the feelings i am experienceing are embarresment, shame, heart broken, etc. Basically what should i do, i feel like he is so much more happy now and doesn't give a flying krap about me. I guess i want him to. We are in college, i'm afraid to see what it is going to be like when i return to my house there (he lives there right now). What do i do, to keep my dignity..and i guess reverse all the horrible things he is saying about me to cover up why he ran from this relationship at the very moment it got it's worst and others got involved. I know this sounds simple, and i should just walk away..which i have. I honestly have not shown him anything since he complete broke my heart and blamed me for everything. Just what do i do to make myself feel better, and however bad i want to say something to him about seeing that girl..i know after i do he'll only make me feel even more like a jackass then i did before. Help please.
It's only been three weeks. You'll need to give it more time before these awful feelings begin to play themselves out. Your feelings are completely normal for your situation and my guess is that in another three weeks you will begin to feel better again.
Part of your bad feelings are because he is already seeing another girl. You should get out and circulate... this will be good for your ego. Watch out for the rebound, however. That's probably what he is going through.
Go out with your friends and enjoy whatever you can while your hurt is healing.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com