My fiance cheated on me. Advise?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My fiance and I have been engaged for a little over a month and have been living together for a little over a year. We have known each other for over 12 years and dated for a couple of those years in the begginning. She was married for six years and said she settled for someone who wasn't me. She started acting really strange after I put that ring on her finger and she kept saying it was just nerves but my gut feeling told me otherwise. After getting into her email I seen that she was seeing this guy from work. She said she was going to tell me and was glad I found out. She says she is extremely sorry for hurting me and in order for me to move on (with or without her) I forgave her. I still love her and we are still living together. She no longer works with the guy she cheated on me with and says that she will never contact him again. This puts a hold on the wedding plans but should I even give her a chance? How can I trust her again?
Only time will tell if your trust can be rebuilt. Much of it will depend on her and how she treats you. If she treats you with shared feelings and information, is affectionate, loving, honest, respectful, and caring then your feelings of trust and love may grow.
If she is wishy-washy about the relationship then there is not much hope.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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