What should I do?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been with my boyfried for just over a year now but within that year so much has happened. He came into my life when I needed someone the most... my mother was very ill and passed away about 7 mo. ago. He has been my only support system, seeing as I have no other family, but for the last few months I have had a nagging feeling that it won't work out in the long run due to the increasing amout of problems we're having. I'm very attached to him emotionally but that's where it stops. Some days I want to tell him to get out (even if we haven't been fighting) and some days everything is fine. I don't know if the problem is my emotional rollercoaster or if it really is time to end things. Plese help me.
My advice is to stay with him for another half year and see if things improve. You are still dealing with your mother's death and shouldn't let yourself be left alone.
Many of your ups and downs are probably related to feelings of grief which can cause rollercoaster emotions. The worst part of your grief should subside after a year from your mother's death and then you can look at your love life with clearer eyes.
You might consider seeing a licensed psychotherapist who is training to listen and help you understand your feelings.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com