Most confusing break up
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year, we have always had fights over the most stupid things. Just recently we took a random 2 week vacation together because it was free. Going broke however it caused some problems, we got into a huge fight. I made him leave the beach, being very confused about how i felt, and i was thinking about ending things. My family found out about the fight and were very upset about his actions. Two days after he left however, he turned the tables on me, saying how he didn't want to be in our relationship anymore. We went through 2 days of me telling him how much he should give up, how much we love eachother. I was pretty much putting myself out there, he kept saying he was so confused and didnt know if it was right. Well i ended up driving to where i live, which is also where he is from and going to his place. We talked for hours about everything, he went back and forth, wanting to be with me, not wanting to be with me..about 4 times. Well we ended up breaking up. So i left thinking it was over forever. The next day i got a text from him saying he was having second thoughts, i was completely thrown for a loop. Starting that night he called me just about a straight week, drunk phone calls. Saying he missed me, loved me, was so confused, but didn't want to make us work right then. Then he started calling to ask if i was messing with other guys etc. He was completely jerking my heart, really putting me through hell. Telling me how he felt but not doing anything about it. I've heard that some girl is trying to hang out with him, but i do not know the true details. Now i haven't talked to him in about 3/4 days. The last time he was drunk, freaking out, asking a billion question, and telling me how much he loved me. Also he hasn't told his parents yet about our break up. Well a day after the last convo on the phone. I decided to not answer anymore drunk phone calls, and since he said i never said anything to him during the day, i texted "i really miss you." with no response back from him. Now i haven't recieved any more drunk phone calls and i haven't heard from him at all since i sent the text. I want him back so bad, i just do not know what i am supposed to be doing. I feel like he is doing all the things i should be doing, like freaking out-but i haven't asked any questions. What do i do to get him back????? And what is going on!?
What's going on is that he's a jerk. Remember it is possible to love jerks. His biggest problem is drinking. Try talking with him when he is sober. Tell him how you feel and that you want him back.
You have a long road to travel if you want him back. Something is bothering badly and you need to figure out what he is trying to say to you. Make a date with him so you can talk in person soberly. Perhaps you can find out what is troubling him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com