I don't Understand him
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I met my ex last january through work i really cared about him and for the most part he seemed to really care about me. He was six years older than me and he had a two year old daughter with his ex. We WERE happy he told me this was the happiest he had ever been and that he had never been so comfrontable around a girl as he was with me. The day after the first time we slept together he went into the hospital i recieved myspace messages from his daughters mom telling me how they got together all the time behind my back and that she didnt want to see him lying and cheating on me and that she wished she knew what he told me why he was in the hospital (evidently he already told her). He went missing for two weeks no one could find him when he finally decided to talk he explained to me he tried to commit suicide and when i asked why he told me he didnt know. When i confronted him about his ex and him he told me that she does this all the time (breaking up his new relationships) and they had gone out to eat once so he could give her money for the baby and that he had kissed her while he was in the hospital. but when i read the messages some of the info she told me seemed right...so I broke up with him. he wouldnt come to work because i told him i would walk out on him and he wouldnt return until i said i wouldnt walk out on him. after that someone had asked to his ex to work at the store i told him "i quit" he kept fighting with me for days begging me not to quit "because im a good worker" until i finally just didnt come in. his best friend talks to me and sometimes will ask me to come over for a party but i always decline...the worst part is that i cared for him so much and it kills me that he would do something like that to me. I'm just not sure who to believe. sometimes i feel like i made a mistake then other times i dont. his ex has STILL has pictures of them together before the baby was born and after they had broken up on her myspace. I'm just not sure if i made a mistake? did he cheat?
Your main concern should be his suicide attempt. It would be unadvisable to have a relationship with someone this unstable.
So it doesn't matter what is or was happening with his ex. Let her worry about him. She has the experience to help her.
Life is short, make the best of yours and find someone new. Someone you can trust and have confidence in. This guy is a dead end.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com