We Need your advice , GeorgeVisitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am not sure whether this question is appropriate to mention here. Pardon me. But please answer it in romanceclass.com. Thank you thank you so much for your prev. answers But pardon me for asking one more thing. I better tell you the whole case to let you analyze.
6 months ago, I met a wonderful man. I felt in love with him. He gave me attentions but he said that he may not want to be my lover. From January til Feb, Strange, he contacted me every single day, as if he was trying to get closer to me. I was so confused with him. I asked him to be my lover within March-May as a probabation. He accepted my wish.
He reacted as a ‘.true lover’. to me, he kissed me every time, hugged, and so on (it is not polite to mention here). Midst of March, I asked him whether he was really in love with me, he said he just want to be my brother (the question: why he did all the romantic gestures???? Is it because he had such a big ‘.passion or lust’. ?)
Then everything went smoothly. He got much more closer to me. Starting April, he did more and more romantic gestures. One day he wanted more intimacy. I knew for sure he will just wanted the intimacy and then throw me aside, so I picked a good day to make sure that I was in my best fertility time. As a woman, I do not want to be played as a doll.
I never had intimacy with any guy before and I got a feeling that he will just leave me after the intimacy. You must be wondering why I did not leave him, the answer is because I loved him dearly. I prayed to God to give me a child. Soon after the intimacy, I found out that God has fulfilled my prayer (you know, I started to get pregnant).
The guy gave me confusing answers. First he asked me to abort, second he wanted to be responsible. Third, he promised to marry me (but he asked me to wait until he got more cash, he said he had no enough money to start building a family, but in fact he is rich enough and I am not such a materialistic woman). Fourth, he said that his parents did not like me (in fact I got along really well with the parents). Fifth, he left me without a word and never contacted me again until NOW. He blamed me because I told him that I purposely planned my pregnancy ( I wanted to be honest). I keep my child although he did not want to be responsible ( you suggested to contact a lawyer to get him pay for the child until the child is 18 th yrs old)
Is it all my own faults? The question that puzzles me: Why he ‘.brought’. me to intimacy although he said that he did not love me? I hope you send the answers to both of us so let both of us get your precious advice. I will check the romanceclass.com too for the answers. Thank you so much George.
Both of you share in the fault. He for asking for more intimacy when he did not love you. You for getting pregnant on purpose. He was motivated by lust and you by love. This is an age-old story.
Both of you should consider the fate of the child as the primary concern.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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