A Pressing Issue #2Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hello, I am the same writer of "A Pressing Issue"
Well... oh jeez... where to start now.
I went back home for the 4th of July. The girl (I'll call her G) was in town for one night before she went on a family vacation. She kept wondering if I would hang out with her. So during my drive, I kept trying to make an excuse like traffic, weather, or being tired... but I couldn't bring myself to do it. Reason being is that she is coming up in a few weeks to see me where I currently live. I had a set plan on what I was going to do... but well... keep reading.
So I gave in, and the two of us went to a Dave and Buster's type place. We talked, we drank, we played games... we drank more and talked even more.
Before I knew what was happening, we were getting closer and closer to each other, when finally, we started to kiss. Words were exchanged... caring words. She said things like "I missed you" "I'm sorry for leaving you waiting for me" things like that. However, we were both drunk, so I don't take what she said into context... even though I really want to.
The kissing... eventually led to sex. I never had sex with this girl in my entire life... our relationship changed, we went from friends, to puppy love to lovers in one night. If you read my past post "A Pressing Issue" you'll know that our relationship was always very clouded.
The sex was great, and we both enjoyed it. We sometimes even joke about it. However... my problem is... I feel as though I'm going to lose her. I feel that the words, the sex, and even the feelings we shared... were fake on her part. More than anything... I wish they would be real. This girl... she's the only one I want. I've been through three other relationships, but I never cared enough for those girls. Not like I do for "G."
I've noticed that she hasn't sent me as many messages as she used to... but this could be because she was with her family for the past few days. I'm hoping that things will go back to normal. I do plan on telling her how I feel when she comes to see me. Whether she agrees or disagrees, I have to do it... There's no running away this time.
...but I do need some help on what to do in the meantime. Although she says she's still coming to visit me, I just have a gut feeling that she may just randomly text or call me that she changed her mind. though she's not the type to go back on her word, especially since this has been planned for a good two months. Also if anyone has any advice on how to openly share my feelings (not a strong point of mine) that would be great too.
You have made some advancements from the last time you wrote. Now you are worrying about what they mean.
She must have very positive feelings about you after all the texting, phoning, and when you hung out. I doubt she will throw that away now.
Start off by telling her that you are not good at sharing feelings (and that itself is sharing a feeling.) Tell her how you have been feeling about her and wait and see what she says. If you get stuck, remind her again about your difficulty with sharing feelings.
I think things will go well.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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