I need her Back. help me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
ok, first of all, i have dated this girl for over a full year. It hasnt been like any old typical relationship. i sware to god its something special. the day before we went out we even saw a shooting star together at night and nobody else was around to see it. Theres no way a year of feelings just goes away a month after we break up. So this is the story: Towards the end of the relationship, obviously people get a little sick of eachother and start to get annoyed more easily or mad more easily at their partner. So she wasnt happy with the way i treated her...so at work, she started talking to this other guy and i found out she got with him. To tell you all the truth, i am 100% crushed from this. However, this guy is a joke. im not gonna give full details, but i KNOW FOR A FACT im a 10 times better match for her. She just did it because she was truly unhappy with me. She used to always say no matter what shell always love me. Theres no way that its the same love with this random kid that the love was between me nd her, and theres no way a years bond just goes away. The way she acts towards me is what i'm concerned about. She knows im heartbroken, so when she heard me devastated on the fone she actually did tell me yes in the near future we will probably get back together. But i cant live knowing what shes doing with this guy sexually and not me anymore. I know i shouldnt be bugging her every second begging her etc.. but sometimes i cant help it and its extremely hard. She coming back form a vacation in two days and i told her i really need to see her the day she gets back. I am gonna sit face to face and tell her straight up that i love her to death and that i need her in my life. i also bought her a very expensive knecklace. I EVEN PROMISED HER to treat her like an angel cause all of this BS totally made me realize i truly love her. What do u think i should do?? (besides what i alredy am doing) Do u think she still has feelings for me after a full year of dating even though she tells me she doesnt love me anymore (i think its just in spite because shes still mad at me)
You are on a good path toward bringing her back to you. I don't need to tell you to avoid friction at all costs. Tell her gently and lovingly how you feel about her and that you hope she still feels that you two can get back together.
In addition to the necklace, bring roses and a box of dark chocolates.
I think she still loves you some since you were together for a year. She lost heart when you didn't treat her well. Try to do the best job you can explaining to her that you now realize how much you love her. Tell her all of the things that attract you to you. Smile a lot and promise to love her forever. Don't tell her that you are better than the other guy. She has to decide that herself based on what you do and say. It would be nice if you could take her out to a fancy restaurant.
The most important thing is that you have to believe what you are saying and that will convince her you are serious.
Good luck with what you are trying to do. George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com