have a pushed her to far what do i do
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
me and my ex were together for 3.5 years and we had troubles with me trusting her becouse befor i came in her life she was with a guy from a difrent state and they were broke up for a year it was a over the phone relationship and it lasted a year and they broke up she went out n tryed get over him then i came in the picture she thought she would be able to get over him but then he called every day when i was at work and i got a annoymnous voice mail and it was him some how it got transfered to my phone n he was saying i love you and miss you and that were i lost my trust but with me and her when we got together we were with each other every day every second and we fell in love but she still had feelings for this jerk from difrent state so we went on and fought over this and i asked her to stop talk to him and he the type to come around for while then leave n just pop up n try get her back he had a girl for awhile and was a meth user so i figured he was desprate to be with some one and she was always there for him i had problem with that other then that every thing was cool then year went on and we deseided that i would move in with her parents and her and help out and the family took me in and loved me more then any thing and excepted me way allot so i stayed there and began to be real close with her family brother and cuzzins and we did every thing together and then she started new job and started to get new firends and started going out and at that time i was the jelouse type and didnt trust her that much becouse when she would be out she would talk to this guy on the phone and after awhile i would catch her sneak out and talk to this guy and i would catch her what would couse allot of drama between us but when we fought it would be like a hour thing then she would feel bad or i would and things would be ok but it happened allot so then after awhile i would get so up set it seemed like every thing i did was fight with her over this and she told me they friends and he does try break us up and she do have feelings but if she wanted him she would be with him so then she started going out and i would call allot and bother and becouse i would stay home bored with lil brother/ my best friend and she started get sick of the fighting and i moved out to my parents and it was a break so we were cool but me i loved her so much i would try get her back every day but we still hung out kissed and had sex for about 3 months of the break then she started get sick of me calling 24/7 100 times a day to talk to her and she called it a break up becouse during her break she all the sudden got all these guys friends she started to ditch hang out with me to go drink and hang with them but i still called and bothered her allot and she got sick of it so a month went by and her birthday came by and things got bad and i coused hell becouse she invited all these guys who been hateing on me and didnt like me so i didnt show up but i still called every day and she would ignore me and i would text so i went to doctor and got prescribe efexor for depresstion and obsessive thinking disorder and i would ask all her cuzzins he advice they say it just a faze it just a faze and becouse she was so annoyed and mad she would say hurtfull things and just say fucck it its over and it would make me cry and cry i still came around family functions and still take her brother out weekly becouse he mean allot to me and she still gone and so annoyed of me that she ignore every thing i try get ahold and try get her back then now 6 months later i went over and helped her fix her computer she was all like no dont get so close and ruimers that she got new man but she be going out clubbing every week and doing all this stuff and i just want her back so i had her bro ask if she going to take me back and she said im annoyig and i ruined my chance and if i wasnt so annoying i would of got chance but i realy messsd up by bugging her and i no she would been back by now if i wasnt so annoying now i got new job and still living with mom and we figured in the begging of the break that i should stay her becouse she needed more space and we moved in to fast i dont no what to do i want her back and i told her i would wait for her in the start and i still am but i cant go a day with out think about her and i just wanna talk to her and sort things out and get back but she said she dont want that and walked away i dont no what to do i annoyed her so much she think im krazy and i think i pushed her to far i dont know what to do becosue i cant move on i love her more then any thing and we were suposed to get married next month if we were still together i just need advice on how to win her heart back and get back with her becouse she mean the world to me and she helped me in many ways and i cant just walk away from her like this i no she annoyed and prolly mad but idk if there a chance becouse she been talking to many guys and going out on dates n stuff to she still you she 21 and hope this still just a faze n she relaize i neeed help!
It is very good that you went to a doctor and got some medications. They hopefully will work for you. You might also ask your doctor to recommend a psychologist to help you sort out your personal problems.
Regarding this woman, you seem to have turned her off by your over ambitious efforts to get back together. Your plan to cut back on contacting her seems a wise one. She will respond better if you take a more relaxed viewpoint of how you interact with her. Respect her feelings and she will respect yours.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com