I don't know what to do anymore!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I were dating seriously for 4 years, since I was 15 and he was 16. We were/are madly in love, but we constantly fought and had stupid disagreements. The past year things had been really rocky and we were always getting into more and moer arguments over nothing.
Last month he broke up with me telling me he needed to concentrate on his life at the moment (let me remind you we are now entering SUMMER, I find it coincidental). I tried to give him a few days before I contacted him, and when I did he was sort of cold but not too mean. To make a long story short, I kept giving him like 3 to 5 days before I called/texted him to see how he is. I then got to the point where I wrote him a deeply emotional letter about how I feel and I know he read it and felt something but never returned any response.
The last I spoke to him was 3 days ago, and I'm trying my best to just leave him alone and let him come to me, but I am absolutely dying inside because this was the guy I was supposed to marry and grow old with. I really need help because I am miserable without him. Of course I have been working on myself, going to the gym and focusing on what makes me happy and keeping busy, however nothing feels right without him.
You are handling this just right.
By not pressuring him you stand a better chance of him coming back.
Keeping in shape and busy is good for you and for your relationship too.
Give it another two weeks and then ask him out to dinner just to chat. Or, if it is feasible ask him over for his favorite home-cooked meal.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com