Confused about people watching
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I appreciate all of the advice you give here on jealousy, however you have left me a little confused. When it comes to men checking out other women, sometimes your advice is to question if it's simply 'people watching' then why is it only directed at attractive women. and sometimes your advice is that most men looks at other women so it is something one has to come to terms with. Which is it? Should we question why they are looking or simply accept that they do?
I personally don't appreciate when my b/f checks out other women. Looking is one thing, ogling is another.
Ogling is never ok. And "people watching" is just an excuse.
You are right that most men and women check out the opposite sex and, as much as we may dislike it, it is something we need to acknowledge and try to grow used to.
If it gets out of control, have a talk with him and ask him to be less obvious and less frequent. If you are up to it tell him that if things don't change you will start checking guys out and then do it. You might enjoy it :)
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com