Married and emotionally confused
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am 22 years old and a married woman. My husband and i have a 1 year old daughter together but lately i just haven't felt emotionally commited to my husband. He was my first and only sexual partner and i am getting a little curious to know what it is like to be with another man. I talked to my husband about this and he told me that he wanted me to act on my curiosity with a mutual friend of ours. I had recently gotten really close to this other guy and started walking with him every morning. Well one day we got to talking and we made out in his truck but right as things were starting to heat up my husband showed up. He was upset mainly because he was worried about where i was and that he had saw what was happening but he told me that he wanted me to finish what i started. The next day the other guy and i were stuck in the same situation but he decided that it wasn't such a good idea after all and i agree with him. I have been developing feelings for him over the last year and i think he has feelings for me too and we decided that it would just make things worse to act on those feelings. My problem is I still want to experience what it would be like to be with this man, and i am having trouble figuring out how i feel about my husband. I think i love him but that i am not in love with him anymore. What should i do?
All of what you are saying and doing makes sense. However, the big question is what will this do to your marriage and child?
You or you and your husband need to get professional counseling very soon. Otherwise you are likely to grow even farther apart. You both seem to be reasonable people and should be willing to interact with a counselor.
Pick up your phone book and look in the yellow pages right now.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com