i have some fault
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
ok here's the problem:
i've written before about what to do since my ex contacted me recently after almost 10months without talking to each other. we had some issues since she has a baby but doesnt know who's the daddy, either me or her current bf (we broke up, she got another bf but we would still see each other as friends with benefits, and she cheated on her bf with me).......well the problem is that we been talking for over a month now and where i have the fault is that i kinda let "her in" again, we hung out, had sex and went out a couple times......it's the classic occasion where after stopped talkin for a while she came back cuz she needed some attn, and all of a sudden im good enough for her again........well now i noticed that she's been avoiding me saying excuses just to not to talk to me again, and it all started last weekend because i didnt want her to call me since i was busy.....well another thing is that she said she was trying to avoid her bf at all times cuz she was gonna break up with him to come back with me, but now she's hanging out with him again and even went to disneyland!!.......i realized that she dont want me back and im stupid for letting her in again, but the thing is that i dont know abt the baby......one time she tells me she could be mine, then she says that she's not mine, then changes her mine, and it's also clear that she's confused, otherwise she wouldnt have came back with that excuse.........anyways it's all confusing and for better or for worse i will do the dna test so i could know if she's mine or not.........i know this sounds like she just used me as a backup since she wasnt spending a lot of time with her bf......so what do i do now?? what should i say? by the way when once she told me she didnt want to take the test, i told her that if she wouldnt, i would tell her bf abt the situation since he doesnt know anything.
The test is simple. Just take a cotton swab (like a Q-Tip) and rub it against the inside of your cheek, in the mouth. The baby will also need a different Q-Tip for her sample. Then the doctor/lab compare them and tell you if you are the father. Quick and painless.
Think about what you are going to do if you are the father. If you are, she can claim child support payments from you even if she doesn't stay with you.
She doesn't sound very reliable and would probably cheat on you if you got back together. This all sounds bad and my advice is to skip the DNA test and drop her fast.
Good Luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com