My ex is with my best friend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My ex-boyfriend and I broke up constantly, but we always ended up getting back together within 2 weeks. We just broke up again about 4 weeks ago and even though he has moved on, I still think about him all the time.
Now he wants to go out with my best friend. She came to me today make sure it was okay, cause she would rather have me as a friend than him as a guy. I can tell they really like eachother so I said that she would never lose me over him or any other guy.
Now, I feel alone and hurt. I still like him a lot. But they seem so happy when they are together, even though it was just as friends before. What should I do?
A relationship is about trusting someone to be there for you and to work through all problems. So if you guys were breaking up all the time, something was seriously wrong. When you face a problem you should work on it together, find a solution, move on. If you just say "Oh well! Problem! See ya!" it is never going to work - which is exactly what happened.
You can keep him as a friend! He just wasn't meant to be your boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with that, that's true for lots and lots of people. So enjoy having him as a friend and look around to see what other male friend of yours might be better suited to you. And this time, when you start to have a disagreement, TALK about it. You should never run from conflict. You should deal with it and address it. That is what a relationship is all about.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com