I can't decide the person I want for marriage
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am 36 years old and single. I would really like to have a life partner and have kids. However, I can't really focus on this issue and take it seriously eventhough i do wake up sometimes late at night and start thinking of having kids and being scared that I am runniing out of time to achieve this goal. But deep inside i know I fear getting married becuause I think it will just fail after a few years, also i do find it very difficult to meet men from my own community my own level as I am educated and feel I will get bored to be with someone who is less educated then me. I am from syria and I am currently living In England and I find it hard meeting educated syrian guys here and the second option I think is to marry a guy from other middle eastern countries because of religion and culture. I cannot make a decision if that what I should be looking for because I am scared after marriage my husband might tell me I miss food from my country or put me down by saying if only I married a girl from my country I could of been happier and then praise their girls. Am i right fearing this? Eventhough i would like to marry someone from my country it is hard to meet them where I am living now and also I don't want to limit myself as I am 36 years old now. Please help me through this.
I am sorry you are in this situation.
My advice is to make a list of all of your Syrian friends-- male and female.
Call them up and ask them for names of Syrian men and women they know. Use them to compile a list of all Syrian men in England. In this list (use Microsoft Excel if you understand it), put the name, age, education, occupation, residence, marital status (single/divorced/widowed). If you want to, keep a list including national origin and religion so that you don't limit yourself to just Syrians. This may sound like a crazy project, but you can easily reduce the parameters as you wish.
Also, consider signing up for online dating or put an ad in newspapers saying:
36 year old Syrian woman seeks Syrian man for marriage and children.
Online dating: http://www.arablounge.com/
Perhaps the Syrian embassy in London could help you.
Finally, are you determined to stay in England? You would find men more easily, of course, in Syria. Perhaps find one who wants to move to England.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com