I messed up..
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
When i first started going out with my bf, we talked every night and eventually after a while we fell in love. He's very dedicated to his school work (we go to a medical high school), he loves being in band, and he wakes up very early to go to church every day. I always told him i wondered how he had enough time to talk with me every night, but he always responded that he made time and that i was the only girl who would ever make him change his mind about having a relationship at the moment. He'd always randomly tell me he was in love with...But then things got complicated a couple weeks ago when he had these projects for his classes, and he didnt have time to call me that week only. I understood, but i missed him... he told me he was busy but that he loved me and he was trying to make time..At school during lunch his friend was always there and we were never alone...Then things got worse when my mother grew sick, throwing up and coming to my bed in the middle of the night in pain...i grew depressed and distant..when he finally got around to calling me i told him, but briefly....when my mother finally went to the hospital, i found out she had 3 kidney stones...i was nervous and upset...my bf did not know the extent of my mother being sick so he got nervous and assumed i was losing interest in him. Last friday, i just lost it and not thinking i broke up with him telling him it was cuz i wasn't at my best right now and we didnt talk as much..He opened his arms and said 'But we'll still be friends right?'...now i realise i messed up. I'm still so in love with him. I told him and asked for him back...i begged and explained everything, now he knows about my mother and why i was so rash..but he said summer is so close and he wont see me so there is no point and he was wrong to get my hopes up to tell me he'd MAKE time for me. He also told his friend that he doesnt think relationships work once you've broken up already..i even told him that we didnt have to talk every day...he didnt take me back...he loved me, he cherished me..i was his sourse of relief in all his work..why does he not want me? doesnt he remember all of those feelings? His friends even tell me he has been lost in thought lately, and he looks sad..Is he maybe just trying to focus on work and suppressing his feelings for me?
Give this a little more time. He will begin to miss you very soon.
Don't overwhelm him with your love. A little bit of cool may bring him back to his senses.
He needs room to finish the semester. Let him know that you will want to see him during the summer so he doesn't use that as an excuse.
A little time should settle this.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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