Hmmmm...is this a good sign?Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hello, last time I wrote to you about "positive reaction". Im going to update you now. Okay it all started last Monday. Our last lesson were maths and after lesson we walked together on the college campus and we were talking. He goes to me his bestmate is coming to college today for interview to get in here next year. I kinda know his bestmate, we met like twice. So I was like are you going home then? He goes nah im going to jamm here and wait for him. So I walked to the station with this girl and I got a text from his bestmate asking me to wait there at the station and hes coming in like 10 minutes. So I waited for his bestmate and then we walked back to college together and I hide behind him when I saw my ex coming. Then he was like totally shocked when he saw me again and he goes what are you doing here and his bestmate goes Oh i texted her n asked her to jamm inih. So his bestmate went for his interview and my ex asked me to come to the shop with him. Afterwards he asked me to just like sit on this bench which was so unexpected. There were grass all around us and I thought maybe we'll sit somewhere in college or something but no! So we started talking and at one time he hugged me since it was a bit windy and I rest my head on his shoulder but then I moved after a while. I was thinking of talking to him about everything you know like you tole me because that was the right time but then I didn't. It started raining like hell and we went back inside college. We waited for his bestmate then got the train back home. I texted his bestmate on the train who was sitting right opposite me asking whether I shall ask my ex if he still has feelings for me or not. OMG he told my ex straight up and my ex goes is that what u've trying to tell me this whole time. I was like hmmmm no:S lol...Then he goes to his bestmate I know shes lying but I will answer her question only when she asks me herself. So I asked him and he goes yea I still have feelings for you and I still like you straight up and then he goes he'll tell me the details later. So the next day I saw him on my way to my lesson and we talked about it. The problem is that we go to the same college and he feels uneasy to go out with someone in the same college. I completely understand him. He goes to me its not like I do not care about you. I do care about you and you are the perfect girl but if only u went to some other college or me. I was quietly listening to him etc and smiling at him. Then I was like so this is yout final decision, you don't want to give it another shot or anything yh. Then he walked back and forth thinking about it then he goes actually after exams...hmmm there might be a point when i'll ask you out but just be a friend, a really good friend or a bestfriend at the moment. I was like yea sure thats what I am trying to do. Then I was like "Shall I wait then?" He was like why wait...whatever happens will happen I don't want to give you hope that yea i'll ask you out for sure but you are sweet(tapping my shoulder), you are cute(pinching my cheeks) and i still have feelings you. So you never know:D...Then he hugged me soooooooooooo tight like seriously he squeezed me:S...And I was like huh:S at first then after I hugged him as well. He caressed my back as well:$...And on Thursday, he came to sit next to me in our maths lesson without hesitation:D...He has added me again on msn now from his new add. Its like I feel really happy about all this and relief as well for some reason. And hes comfortable around me now. Its like he told me everything now and there is nothing hes hiding from me. So I am really loving it. I feeeeeeeel so much better. I go to college my friends ask ooooooh you are looking so happy these days, whats been going on? LOL and they are like you are so positive you giving us this positive vibe...I feeeeeel good...Thanks for your advice. I listen and put into practice every single of them. Thankssssssssssssssss a lot...Just tell me how you feel about this whole situation:D
Sounds like you did everything just right and he is coming back slowly.
Maintain your bestfriend relationship but be sure not to be clingy or needy. It doesn't sound like you are that way which is good.
Enjoy the good feelings and he will feel good too.
-- from George
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