We're cheating emotionally
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I got really close to this guy friend of mine and we're both cheating emotioanlly on our bf/gf. He admitted that he loves me and that I felt something for him too. Yet I know he is not likely to leave his partner for me because he felt that he should be responsible towards her since they have been together for a few years and that she's really an innocent party here. But the feelings we've for each other just kept growing by the day and it's really difficult to shut it off.
On the other hand, we still meet up and he still flirts with me openly, telling me that he misses me. I really don't know where this will lead to. At this point of time, nothing physical has went on between us. I was just thinking that his so-called love is because he's lonely as his partner is somewhere far away and they rarely meet up.
Really confused about what I should do as I know it's not right for us to continue, yet the heart speaks otherwise.
Yes, it is not right for you to continue seeing this guy.
You both have other involvements which you value. Your "love" is probably just lust and novelty and loneliness.
Tell your boyfriend what is going on and ask for his help. That should keep your mind off this new man. It's an infatuation, nothing more. Everyone gets crushes but don't be fooled by them. They lead nowhere.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com