I haven't been able to have sex yet
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I have been with my girlfriend for two weeks now, on both ocasions that we have had various forms of sex i have not been able to ejaculate. my girlfriend thinks it's her, but i have never achieved ejaculation through masturbation, but have in 'wet dreams'I'm seventeen and my girlfriend is sixteen. Do you have any idea what is wrong with me? It's tearing my life apart!
Every one of us has different triggers to react sexually. These should not be hair triggers either!! Also stress can really make this sort of thing nearly impossible. The more you worry about it, the more difficult or impossible it becomes.
I would NOT stress about this. Sex is about having fun not about "achieving a goal". Just enjoy the fun of being together. Look at it as a fun riddle. Try different things, different situations, different speeds. What does this do? What does that do? Don't look at it as a 'failure' when it doesn't work. Undoubtedly you enjoyed the process! Think of it as a treasure hunt with a great prize, and you are just trying different doors to see if it's there. Eventually you'll find it and you might be disappointed that you can't keep trying things :) Of course you can, though!
-- from Jenn
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