Confused by my bff
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My best friend is a guy and i would call us super close. Well the other day i was walking outside with my class and he comes up to me and puts his arm around me and whispers he was gonna touch something but i said he wouldnt just kidding around like friends do. well after i said he wouldn't do that he pushed me away and lagged way behind me
after a while he called be over to him at the back of the lie and waited til no one was looking and reached out and smacked my butt! i was surprised (because we're best friends)when i looked at him he said he was trying to prove a piont after he did that he pushed me away again. well at lunch that day as we were walking out of our class we like always were at the back of the line when he was sure noone was looking he took his hand and rubbed it all over my butt, then he told me i looked hot and sexy (o that really caught me off gaurd cause when we're around our friends he always says i'm the ugliest girl in the world whch hurts sometimes)then at lunch he asked if he could touch my boobs and i saidno of course. well in sixth period he asked me again and i said no well he said what if i did it anyway and i said well idk. well he comes over to me and acts likes he'ss telling me something and starts squeezing my boob in the middle of class i was so embarressed cause im sure someone saw (but on the otherhand i hate to admit but i kinda like it!) ten the next day he said he wanted to stick his hand up my shirt and squeeze my boobss i said no agaian and said well you wouldn't do it anyway cause you dont like me and we're best friends. w ell at the end of the day he actually tried too1 and i stopped him. then after all his begging and whinning i finally gave him my permission to do that the next day but that was it! well today at school he aasked me about and i said i can't break a promise, he said that he was never gonna do any of that stuff he was just doing that to make me mad and he alsso said everytime i thought he did something he did it with his elbow (yeah right i watched him do it with his hand but theres no use argueing with him and plus i kinna like it)well i was sittting next to him reading a magizine and he alll of the sudden reaches over and squeeze my boob and i see him to do it with his hands and the he tells me he did it with his elbow (whatever) then he pratically pulls my shirt doing trying to reach his hand down it( oh did i ever get him for that one!) okay then he told me to lean over and i did then he slipped his hand up my shirt under my bra and played with it for a few seconds. then when he was done he said told ya i would do it and he turned right around and said that he did it with his elbow (no he didn't i watched he used his hand!)so he says he's reeally gonna do it this time and he does the same thing again saying he was proving a piont and oh wait i did it with my elbow i'll really do it this time! i think he just enjoys it and thinks i won't let him but i'm not sure cause he's really doing it with his hand i know and he knows! but he swore he doesn't like me and he always says i'm the ugliest girl in the world and i have abig nose and mean stuff like that i'm not sure what he's saying i am sssssssssssoooooooooo confused what should i do?
You are both playing with each other.
You know he is joking about using his elbow but you let him touch you with his hands anyway.
He is also joking when he says you have a big nose and that you are the ugliest girl in the world. But here you shouldn't let him get away with it. Explain to him that those words are mean and they hurt. If he continues to say it then keep explaining to him and if he still says it then warn him that you would consider not being his friend because friends don't say mean things.
He sounds immature and you have to help him become more mature by telling him how you feel.
Good luck! George
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