On the brink of my morals: is this going to help him or not?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have a friend who I met a while ago that lives in a neighboring state. Currently, I think I've fallen for him. But there's a problem--he has a girlfriend. Here's the twist in the problem: the relationship between my friend and this girl was set up by the girl's older sister, who my friend is close to. He doesn't like either of them. he's just too shy because he just transferred to their school half a year ago. My friend even admitted to me before dating his girlfriend that he was intimidated by her, and didn't like her. Yet ironically, they are going out now. They started dating about three months ago, but I only started liking him the last week or so. I think we are very open with each other, and I recieve good vibe from him.
This summer, he will be coming to visit for two months. I can tell that I will try to be with him, although it is against my morals to cheat. But is it really cheating if he openly admits he doesn't like his girlfriend, and would break up with her if he had the courage to? Also, would it be wrong to encourage him to break up with his girlfriend?
If you were involved with a married man, my advice would be different.
But since this is a bf/gf situation the rules are a little looser. Since he doesn't like his girlfriend I think it would be ok for you to encourage him to leave her. You are not involved with him now so you can think of it as friendly advice.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com