Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi. It's really been a real long time since i last ask for an advice here.
The last advice u give me has been working real well and has brought me to this situation.
I had been keeping in contact with him for at least 15 mins on the phone weekly all this time. (We are distance-relationship) and that 15 mins each week has really strengthen our trust and we know that we really love each other.
Now i just cry and looking for an answer. My bf feel the pain of us being so far away, in total, we have known each other for 2 years maybe going to 3 soon.
He trusted me and wants to marry me. I can b the most happiest girl but.......
I have put on lots and lots of weight due to stress and even my face looks ageing. While maintaining that 15 mins weekly in contact with him, i have lotsa family issues going on that really makes me ill, sick and stress that he doesnt know that it affects me.
I am afraid now. very very afraid now to meet him bcus i really look 2 times different than how i look before when he first saw me.
I had told him about my weight, he said, i must drop it to 55kg but i cant lose it no matter how i diet, exercise etc. it is all due to family stress.
today he was angry on the phone and said that time is going fast and that i should b there quick.
So, being a girl, for us phsical appearance really matters. Even those words that says he doesnt mind is not comforting.
I cant face him. :( this is killing me. looking at myself in the mirror, i cant accept myself. i dont look anymore like how i look. i cant understand how can being stress really harm my image :(:(:(
Losing weight is really difficult for most people.
You have stress, but did you know that a good diet can reduce your stress?
Google DIET STRESS and you will find some good common-sense advice. Ignore the sites that are trying to sell you something.
Another approach would be to see a dietician or a professional counselor.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com