He Cheated on Me - Now I Can't Trust Him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend of 1yr and a half used to smoke weed and i didnt like it at all. last summer he snook out every night to smoke pot and hang out with his friends. His friends would also try to convince him to do something called a "train" were a girl is having sex with several guys. My guy would say no but sometimes say ok, he said the only reason he would say ok was to have them stop asking him.
But i also found out that they emailed each other alot, one of the emails to him said think of me when your having sex with me. I never got to read his emails to her, and i asked him how did they satar talking about sex he said he doesnt know. but now I cant trust him at all, i always check his mileage and make him take drug test.
he has been good so far but i feel that he is going to do something wrong and that i have to be there to see him do it or catch him, my jealousy has gotten even worse i wont let him look at other girls or talk to them eather, we are each others friends only other then family. He listens to me about everything but is it okay for me to be this jealous? I hate it very much! I would be so happy if you could help me.
No wonder you don't trust him! This guy is so weak willed that he was willing to CHEAT ON YOU just because others told him to? What, he couldn't say no because HE didn't want to? Life is about doing things that you take responsibility for. He has to take responsibility for saying YES. There are ALWAYS temptations in the world. It is up to each of us to choose what to do and what not to do. If he is just going to say "yes" even though he knows he should NOT, then how can you trust him to go anywhere or do anything?
It's not that you're jealous. It's that you're rightly knowing that this guy has no morals. He'll just do whatever brings him pleasure and not care much about it hurting you later on. You really need to have a serious talk with him and have him understand that in life HE has to make decisions, HE had to stand by his decisions and HE has to make those decisions based on what is right in life - not what is a selfish pleasure at the moment.
Either he can do that and you guys can date - or he can't do that and you have to break up with him. What if he said "yes" to sleeping with a girl without protection and brought home a sexual disease - and you got really sick? He's not just damaging your emotions here, he could cause you SERIOUS health problems with his lack of responsibility.
-- from Jenn
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