jealousy making me sick
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
We've been married 2 years and at first everything was fine, I was alittle jealous here and there, but then It just got worse one day. He used to say i was the only girl in the world he thought was attractive, then i asked him acouple of times if some actresses were attractive and he said yes, so that bothered me he changed his story and he looks away when boobs are on tv because he knows i get up set and he says there just boobs they dont mean anything but i think hes just saying that to make me feel better or that he doesnt want to fight. everytime i see a hot girl on tv, internet, bulletins, in a store i get upset and jealous. i instantly think he thinks their attractive and it makes me feel sick. we talk about it he says that he doesnt think their hot and doesnt want anyone but me but it still bothers me and i dont want him to see me without close cuz i dont look like the hot girls with nice bodies and boobs. I dont know how to kill the jealousy i feel and i love him and dont want our relationship to die out.
One reason you feel jealous is that you are forcing him to lie to you and then, of course, you don't believe him.
Trust me EVERY guy alive likes to look at other women. Your husband would be a freak if he didn't. Don't force him to lie again, just believe me.
And don't make boobs the big deal you think they are. Plenty of guys don't put much emphasis on boobs. He must be attracted to you... he is with you.
The only thing for you to do is to accept the truth, or get some professional counseling. Try getting over it first and if that doesn't work go to a counselor.
Sorry you are in this situation.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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Don't let him look