What Can I Do?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My girlfriend of 7 years had a hysterectomy 16 months ago. Before she was diagnosed with uteran cancer, I felt her starting to pull away. We are both divorced and have two kids a piece. Our kids get along famously, the physical intimacy we shared was always phenomenal, and the emotional connection we shared was like none other that I have experienced. We were separated for about three months because she said she just felt different, not just about me but about everything. She called me on St. Paddy's day to tell me that she had met someone she was interested in and was thinking about dating. Naturally I was devastated and I am still very hurt. She is the first thing on my mind in the morning and the last thing on my mind before I go to sleep. She never said goodbye, just that she thought she wanted to date this other guy. She still has some of my clothes and personal belongings and the key to my apartment. Am I fool to keep holding onto hope that she will return to me, or should I just do my best to move on and forget about her? I love her so very much and I understand her hormones have played hell with her, but what she has done to me over the course of the past six months has been unfair and almost seems mean. I want her back and she knows that I love her. She has told me time and time again that I am the best thing that has ever happened to her. What can I do?
I'm sorry you are in this situation.
Be her best friend throughout all of this... meaning her dating. She will appreciate having someone to talk with.
She may very well come back to you. Afterall, you have years of being in a relationship. It's surprising you aren't married by now. Could that be a bone of contention for her?
Being her best friend is a good way to bring you together again.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com