I think I spoiled it
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I met this woman at a party. It was one of those electric moments kind of thing. We talked(not one to one, there was a third person involved) and I discovered she likes my cuisine. I remembered it and the next time we were going for another party, I tried hard to cook that dish, but actually couldn't do so. So I went there empty handed. I met her there and we talked about many things. Eventually I told her that I was trying to cook that dish, but because of time, I couldn't. I asked her number. By this time I was feeling the electricity and she also felt it. I could not sleep for the whole night. I was just thinking about her. Then we met for a dinner, none of us were sure whether it was a date or not, So I took some flowers with me. I thought I'll let her decide. SHe also thought it was a date. We spent time together till midnight. EVentually in our conversation, she asked me how I feel about her, I told her, I like I was thinking about her whole night etc etc and ever since we've been together, I feel totally different, I feel I'm happy.
There were couple of occasions where I said how I feel for her, except the 3 words. Sometimes later she said something like this, "I want to take it slow. I'm up for friendship definitely, with a possibility of more in future".
My question is, by admitting(it is hard for me to hold things back) what I felt for her(Like I feel happy and I feel different) have I blown this off prematurely? WHat does she mean by "I'm up for friendship definitely, with a possibility of more in future"?
Sometimes I think she is not even interested in keeping friendship. I don't want to waste her time. Is there a chance to salvage this ship?
Don't worry about wasting her time... that is her concern not yours.
You should be concerned about building a friendship relationship. Don't dwell on your strong feelings for her... this seems to make her uncomfortable.
Continue to ask her out "as friends" to dinners, movies, concerts, etc.
If there is a mutual feeling on her part, you will be naturally drawn together.
Be smooth and don't "rock the boat."
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com