I Want to Rush Things
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
hey i've known this girl for about a couple days, we met at work and shes really cool. i talk with her a lot online and we even went a fair together with another friend of hers. she was cold at the fair so i put my arm around her and she said "not yet" later i learned that she doesn't want to rush into anything. i understood that but summer vaction is almost over and i don't want her to meet another guy and lose my chance.
her friend told me to wait a couple weeks but i just can't i think about her soo much and i can't stop. i'm falling for her but should i wait as long as i can to tell her that really like her (in a girl friend way) or keep it from her. i just am afraid that she will reject me and then we'll never be friends again. thanks in advance for the help!
A relationship is about building a friendship, building up trust and honesty and the ability to talk. The moment you start trying to "rush things" you are going to destroy them. She likes you, obviously. And she knows you like her. There isn't anything to rush! If you push her she WILL reject you because nobody wants to date someone that is capable of pressuring them for their own selfish reasons.
Be her friend. Talk to her, share with her, be around her. She's not going to run off on you if you're there in her life. And if you take things slow, you will build up a relationship that will last. If you prove to her that you have no patience and plan on pushing her around, she'll leave and find someone who does respect her.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com