Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
hello , my situtation is a bit complicated , but i cant figure out on my own wot to do from now on , im going to start about 5 years ago when i met this girl Melissa ( i was 15 she was 13) we really liked each other , we used to text a lot , talk on the phone for hours about anything , dedicating songs to each other on the radio , i sent her flowers on her birthday which she was really excited by it etc. ) i was crazy about her, but the thing is we were too young to have a relationship , like going out till late together and spend time together it was mostly on the phone we spoke but we did hang out but not a lot , we never even kissed back then! a year later one day she completely stopped talking to me with no reason , i had and still have no clue why she stopped talkin to me , i was reli reli hurt , i just couldnt get over her , then we i was a senior and she was a freshmen in highschool she suddenly started saying hello to me along with a big smile in the halls and i could see she was interested in me again , but then i was into this girl Mary THEN , which i ended up spending the next 2 years with her , but we broke up 8 months ago. i didnt have news from Melissa in those 2 years even tho i was thinking about her , i moved on went to university in england and melissa was still in cyprus (greece)
i went back to cyprus for easter holiday 2 weeks ago and i this time i wanted to see her again so i asked her best friend to ask melissa if its ok for her to give me her phone number so i can contact with her , but all these weired things kept happening that her friend didnt have the chance to , but she told me that melissa has been in a relationship for 3 years now! i was crashed but something inside me didnt want to give up , and im still feeling this way !
should i forget about her because shes been in a relationship for 3 years? or is there still hope and the fact that shes been with him for three years might not be that important (since my 2 years relatioship ended) ? shall i do or say something or let her come to me (someday)?
im 20 years old now and shes becoming 18 in september!
its like between me and her there was always a bad timing and we never had the chance to actually be a couble , but i feel that me and her are ment to be!
sorry for this long ''story life'' guys , hope u can help me!
thank you for your time!!
Melissa and Mary is not there real names!
You should try to make contact and go out for coffee.
Say you miss her and always wished you could be a couple.
But don't go any farther in revealing your feelings because it would just confuse things and possibly.
Tell her that if she ever breaks up with her boyfriend you would be extraordinarily happy if she could contact you to let you know.
In other words give her the message without coming right out and saying it because that might make things uncomfortable.
Be sure to give her your computer addresses for possible contact online.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com