i cant move on
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
wow this is harder then i thought, but here goes. ''a wise man said, only fools rush in'' would a wise man therfore say i am a fool because i fell in love with this girl AFTER we broke up!? surely that isn't rushing in! however i still feel like a fool!
here is what happened. i had quite a few relationships (the longest lasting about 3 weeks) when me and a few friends decided to go to an under-18 clubbing event, i met this amazing girl, i didnt even speak to her because it was so nosiy, but we just had this connection! from her smile to her scent, her cute teasing kiss, words just cannot explain how i felt this was a feeling i had never felt before. The evening come to a close and we just kind of drifted away, to go our seperate ways home! me and my friends got on the train, and i was SO disheartened that i didnt even catch this girls name, let-alone her phone number! when one of my friends recognised 'this girl'....SHE WENT TO MY SCHOOL!!! sure enough she did! i was over the moon, she was in the year below me, which is why i probably didnt rely recognise her!
anyway i managed to get hold of her number, so i texted her. it couldnt have gone any better! she was feeling exactly how i felt! at the time there used to be organised park-parties that EVERYONE used to go to ( including my friends and hers ) so we decided to meet at one of these. at first it was kind of akward, she had plenty of boys around her, and i jus felt so angry and upset, but we eventualy got talking and i took her to the bus stop for her to go home, but it jus didnt feel right. so u could say i gave up hope!
Anyways it ended up okay, we got a bit close met up a few times and generaly things started improving, and eventualy after a few months we startd ''seeing'' each other, when one day we had sex! this was her first time and my 2nd, however it felt so special it was brilliant and obviously it meant alot more to her! that night she suggested that we made our relationship official. things couldnt have been any better, i was so happy.
we was going out for about 3 months ( this was my longest relationship by far!! ) however after a while i guess, i started taking it for granted. she used to do EVERYTHING in the relationship, ring and text me daily, she showed her love and kindness, she was the 'PERFECT' girl! honestly she was amazing!!!!
here is where it started to go wrong, she always used to say i dont ring her often enough, or make enough effort in the relationship!, and what was my response?... ''sorry, this is just the way i am''!! what a FOOL! such a stupid thing to say, but i didnt realise this at the time! i said aload of other things like this to...until one day she ABRUPTLY ended the relationship, at the time i was away and things were starting to strain...but i had NO idea this was coming. she gave me NO warning, i just wasnt ready!
i took advantage of her kind and loving ways, and basicly said if u dont like it tough.
WELL IT MESSED ME UP! u could call it ''love-sickness''
it has been around 7 months now, AND I STILL WANT HER, I NEED HER. BUT IS IT POSSIBLE???
i would do anything actuly anything to have her back again. ''you dont know what you've lost until its gone'' this could never be so right! i FELL in love with this girl...but unfortunatley for me it was AFTER we broke up!!
i have spoken to her a few times since on the internet, but it has just been usual stuff like ''how are u'', what have u been upto'' etc etc..
however one of my closest friends still goes to my old school,he is in 6th form and she is in her last year now, when one day he spoke to her... she asked about me, and my friend said she showed alot of intrest!
NOW i dont wont to get the wrong idea!, was she just being friendly?? or has she still got feelings for me?
i just CANT MOVE ON! i am wondering what to do?
One thing to do: call her up and tell her you still love her and will do anything to get her back. Who knows, she may want you back too.
Good Luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com